When you’re criticised in one way or another, it can really put a dent in your confidence.
You could be feeling on top of the world but as soon as someone makes a comment about your work, your personality or the way you live your life, it can bring you crashing back down to earth.
The good news is that criticism can be a great source of motivation, even if it doesn’t seem like it at that exact moment.
Building a growth mindset
If you’re stuck in a fixed mindset, where you place a lot of emphasis on natural talent, you might find criticism hard to deal with. But other people’s criticism can actually help you to push yourself further forward, especially if you’re in a growth mindset.
Their harsh words can be a learning experience for you. For instance, they could be telling you you’re bad at your job. If you’re inclined to believe that, you might hold yourself back from any exciting opportunities or even think about quitting your job altogether. But if you’re in a growth mindset, you’ll get curious about why this person has said this.
What exact skills have they noticed you’re lacking? Is there any way you could brush up on this? What has prompted their outburst? When you’re in a growth mindset and you’re sure of yourself, you know that their opinion can only serve to help you further.
We all see the world through a different lens
And that’s important to remember when someone is criticising you.
Sometimes, criticism is warranted. Other times, it totally isn’t. You have to decide for yourself whether the person’s criticism is actually directed at you or not. Is there something else going on in their life? Are they actually angry at themselves?
There are a million reasons why someone could act the way they do and that’s important to bear in mind. But you don’t have to give the same negative energy back to them. In fact, in most scenarios, you’ll come out stronger if you’re the person who is assertive, not aggressive.
See criticism as a learning experience
When you’re in that positive growth mindset, you know that letting someone’s criticism affect the way you feel about yourself is letting them have power over you. And nobody should be able to take your power away from you.
If your confidence is unshakeable, you’ll be able to shake off the negative comments that come your way.
Now, I’m not saying that you’re a robot. Of course, criticism can hurt – we’re creatures who look for social validation. But you won’t be so set back by it that you’ll give up or stop speaking up for yourself.
You’ll be able to dust yourself off, straighten that crown and walk back out into the world.
Hope this helps,